The influence of parental attitudes on children’s personality development
Mental life is extremely difficult, because the mind is composed of two mutually determinant components: conscious and unconscious — conscious and subconscious.
In the sphere of the unconscious is important fixed relationship to ourselves, to others and to life in General. Define this set and psychological protection. Parents are especially important to understand the role in the emotional and personal development of the child playing parental attitudes.
Install arise on a daily basis. Some random, weak, other principled, consistent and strong, are formed from early childhood, and the earlier they learned, their effect is stronger. Once emerged, the installation does not disappear at a favorable moment of a child’s life affects his behavior and feelings. Weapon against negative attitudes is kontrastnosti, and constantly supported by the positive manifestations on the part of parents and others. For example, kontrastnosti “You can!” wins setting “Helpless, nothing you can’t do it!”, but only if the child will actually receive confirmation of their abilities in real-life activities (teaching, drawing, modeling, singing, Continue reading
Somehow in one of the shows on TV showed the nursing home. Many inhabitants of the house were brought here by their children and left in the care of the state. The headmistress says that gradually, the children rarely visit their parents. At first, the old people are outraged, offended, then accept, i.e., as expected, move on the scale of emotions to apathy and death. And interestingly, for 25 years, her work was never a time that someone said it I raised these children. No one has claimed responsibility!
The situation according to our observations, is very characteristic: every parent believes the duty of children to provide him with the attention, support and care in old age. But you ask those who think so, what they did in the process of bringing to this character trait is caring and consideration for others? Very simple truth is that will create is what you get. Why is it that people voluntarily take on this is not very easy to wear: it is well known that with the elderly harder than with a baby. Only Moody, irritable dad will not put in the corner, not forced to be obedient as a child.
So how justified such an expectation? Let’s try to understand who is who and what should. It is useful to look at the classic analogy: what comes first – the chicken Continue reading
10 laws of parenting
With the birth of the baby, we as parents, adults, are his full authority. He loves us just for what we got. Parents – is the most precious thing in the life of a child. What would we do, would like to it is not treated, the baby will still love us. Therefore, he believed that all our actions and deeds are the only true, correct both for themselves and for the world. So the kid catches every glance of the mother, every father’s gesture, mimics the facial expressions, movements, way of life. He unconsciously absorbs from us demeanor, our tastes and attitudes, our moral values and moral standards.
The education of the child – it is, above all, educating yourself!
The law of imitation
• Treat the baby exactly as you want it to treat You in your old age.
• Their behaviour, attitude to life, we tell the child about the world, about people.
• We should fill our lives and the baby the most beautiful images, brings light and beauty.
• Children perceive mainly what we do, not what we say.
• Children – our most important teachers!
The law of unconditional love
• Definitely take the baby – it means to love him not for his actions, the words, not because he is smart, beautiful and so on, but for the fact Continue reading