Tip one: the most important thing you can give your child is your attention.
Listen to his stories about the school, ask clarifying questions. And remember: what you think is not very important for your son or daughter could be the most exciting event for the entire day! If your interest in its Affairs and concerns, he will feel your support. Listening to it carefully, you will be able to understand what the child needs your help, what should talk with a teacher, what really happens after you say goodbye to him at the door of the school.
Tip two: your positive attitude to school and teachers will facilitate the child’s adjustment period.
Collaborate with your child’s teachers, offer help, be active. In the class with active parents as it is noticed, closer and better relationships between children, more interesting life, more holidays and trips.
Even if you personally, as parents, have any questions to the teachers, you feel that something needs to be done differently, all friction should remain between adults. Otherwise the child will be forced to be torn between the love of parents and authority of the teacher. Very harmful negative or disrespectful statements about school and teachers “in the family circle”, it is much more difficult child adaptation period, would undermine the peace of the child and confidence Continue reading
The influence of parental attitudes on children’s personality development
Mental life is extremely difficult, because the mind is composed of two mutually determinant components: conscious and unconscious — conscious and subconscious.
In the sphere of the unconscious is important fixed relationship to ourselves, to others and to life in General. Define this set and psychological protection. Parents are especially important to understand the role in the emotional and personal development of the child playing parental attitudes.
Install arise on a daily basis. Some random, weak, other principled, consistent and strong, are formed from early childhood, and the earlier they learned, their effect is stronger. Once emerged, the installation does not disappear at a favorable moment of a child’s life affects his behavior and feelings. Weapon against negative attitudes is kontrastnosti, and constantly supported by the positive manifestations on the part of parents and others. For example, kontrastnosti “You can!” wins setting “Helpless, nothing you can’t do it!”, but only if the child will actually receive confirmation of their abilities in real-life activities (teaching, drawing, modeling, singing, Continue reading
Somehow in one of the shows on TV showed the nursing home. Many inhabitants of the house were brought here by their children and left in the care of the state. The headmistress says that gradually, the children rarely visit their parents. At first, the old people are outraged, offended, then accept, i.e., as expected, move on the scale of emotions to apathy and death. And interestingly, for 25 years, her work was never a time that someone said it I raised these children. No one has claimed responsibility!
The situation according to our observations, is very characteristic: every parent believes the duty of children to provide him with the attention, support and care in old age. But you ask those who think so, what they did in the process of bringing to this character trait is caring and consideration for others? Very simple truth is that will create is what you get. Why is it that people voluntarily take on this is not very easy to wear: it is well known that with the elderly harder than with a baby. Only Moody, irritable dad will not put in the corner, not forced to be obedient as a child.
So how justified such an expectation? Let’s try to understand who is who and what should. It is useful to look at the classic analogy: what comes first – the chicken Continue reading