I feel that turn into ass-stupid. Every day I repeat to Yaroslav and Kate the same memorized phrases: “Yarik, hang up the jacket on a hanger”, “Katya, pick up toys», «Yarik, clean up on the table”, “Kate, put your pencils in the box”. Some household maniac, one word. But if I don’t turn this broken record here, our apartment will be buried under the rubble of toys, books, candy wrappers, bits, clothes. Because the children themselves can calmly live in such a mess.
One night I jumped up from a loud noise. It was coming from a child. It turned out that Jaroslav is not removed from his bed on the second floor a few machines, and at night the Armory fell out of bed son.
Recently I about five hours to restore order in the nursery. Carefully, spine to spine, folded books, cards son and his soldiers. Have collected a few pictures of the puzzles scattered daughter. Children sparkling clean. I’m only a couple hours away from home… All books, cards and puzzles were scattered, jumbled, on the floor, and the kids scissors cut a box of Christmas toys hidden until the next New year in the dressing room. But the most Continue reading
How can she lie, looking me straight in the eye? The father of ten girls
In our relationship something goes wrong. I don’t understand why she can’t do I say it? If she trusted me, we would speak the truth. Mother of eight year old girls
Lying is one of the biggest problems in the child’s behavior. When you discover that your child is lying, it is not only shock you, but also hurts, Angers, puzzling and disappointing.
Nine-year-old Shelly Jay and her mom came to me a second time. Mrs. Jay in a rage told me that since our last meeting Shelly lied to her twice already. After the first lie mother as punishment for the week taken from the room Shelley TV. But two days later, Shelly lied again, explaining why so late coming home from school.
Until my mother told me, Shelly shyly sat in the chair, but suddenly jumped up and shouted: “it is not fair to take away my TV because I ate the cake!”
Her mother on the same raised voice said, “I took it not because you ate a brownie. I punished you because you lied. I just can’t stand lies.” Shelly didn’t want to repent and threw it in the answer: “And you’re lying. I know adults lie too”.
And, of course, Shelley was right. Not only politicians lie. We all, in varying degrees, Continue reading
About it in polite society do not speak. Don’t tell over a Cup of coffee, the feeling – or rather, his absence – quickly trying to cover up a polite smile and hide away from prying eyes. «I do not love their parents” sounds like a confession in a terrible crime.
Why this is so
Once we first take offense to dad and mom. Someone brought up in Spartan conditions, someone took out a daily fatigue, someone suffered from neglect and constant employment of parents. Under-loved, unhappy children, who for years harbored resentment, and then just too tired to fight for parental attention, – this one category.
The other – those who had enough of the excessive care and love. Psychologists have many clients who happened to grow up with my mother and grandmother and from experience to experience unbearable heaviness of their love. They dream of escape from the family, but the sense of duty makes to stay. They are constantly taught how to live, what to think, whom to choose as friends. And, barely openevsys, these children run away – first in a student dormitory, then to another city… the country… on another planet. Call out only on holidays and life are already familiar with Continue reading