Today I want to think about the theme first, unrequited love. Namely, how can parents help a teen who doesn’t know how to survive first love?
First love happens at the age of 13-16 years. Time in the life of a teenager and already fragile. But if the love is unrequited or comes the moment of the breakup – a long and painful experiences can not be avoided.
This is the case when parents can either win the favor of their child, providing him with proper support, or to hurt him even more.
Most of the parents watching the experiences of his child, trying to help, but often this “help” only makes things worse. What seems so insignificant with all those years, at the age of 14 seems to be the biggest tragedy. It is important to remember this always.
How to survive your first love? A few tips to help parents:
1 . Let the child calm and understanding. He must feel that he is safe that houses his love and ready to listen. During this period, the child is extremely important a feeling of a reliable backup that can only be provided by parents.
2 . Avoid popular councils, and it is these Continue reading
The presence of own child any parent is tempting sometimes to think about the method, direction and character education. The realities of life often say that a more child to make a good soldier without fear and without reproach, than thin and intelligent man. How to deal with this dilemma?
Looking back, I often think about what the principles taught to me parents need to be honest, do not throw words to the wind, can’t let people bad-mouth middle, modesty is a virtue, for a friend do not mind However as I have matured my naivety, like the others, probably melted and the words spoken to my face, I began carefully to examine the implication for the information contained in the conversation, trying to see the true state of things – it was a student. And having entered the age of the worker, became to understand that not all “mom’s” principles work in my life. “Afloat” are not the cutest shy guy, but upstarts and cheek. So what is the conclusion – to be successful you need to “push”? Now I’m standing by the sandbox and looking at how the fat kid is pulling my daughter out of the hands of the bucket, think of how I could bring up? Let humbly give a bucket, Continue reading
The influence of parental attitudes on children’s personality development
Mental life is extremely difficult, because the mind is composed of two mutually determinant components: conscious and unconscious — conscious and subconscious.
In the sphere of the unconscious is important fixed relationship to ourselves, to others and to life in General. Define this set and psychological protection. Parents are especially important to understand the role in the emotional and personal development of the child playing parental attitudes.
Install arise on a daily basis. Some random, weak, other principled, consistent and strong, are formed from early childhood, and the earlier they learned, their effect is stronger. Once emerged, the installation does not disappear at a favorable moment of a child’s life affects his behavior and feelings. Weapon against negative attitudes is kontrastnosti, and constantly supported by the positive manifestations on the part of parents and others. For example, kontrastnosti “You can!” wins setting “Helpless, nothing you can’t do it!”, but only if the child will actually receive confirmation of their abilities in real-life activities (teaching, drawing, modeling, singing, Continue reading