All parents raise their children to the best of my skill and understanding of life and rarely think about why, in certain situations, do so, and not otherwise. However, each mother in life there are moments when the beloved child behavior baffling.
In your mistakes you are not alone, all their parents occasionally do. But always better to learn from the mistakes of others, isn’t it?
A promise not to love
“If you’re not going like I want, I’ll never love you”
The opinion of parents: Why children are so often argue about any of our request? Maybe they’re doing us out of spite. How to be? To appeal to common sense? Yes, they just can’t hear what adults say to them. To threaten? These are no longer valid. “Mommy will no longer love you”. How often do many of us say this phrase!
^ Advice to parents: a Promise not to love your baby – one of the strongest tools of education. However, this threat is usually not carried out. But I feel fake. Once cheated, you can for a long time to lose the trust of the child – the child will perceive you as people lying.
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Sometimes in the dream child behaves unusually, what scares parents. What are the causes of night anxiety and whether it is dangerous?
In the weak arms of Morpheus
The kid does not want to fall asleep or wakes up with difficulty and “noname”? He sleeps restlessly, not getting enough sleep, and then the whole day is in a bad mood? the “Infinite” the night gave way to a Sunny morning, but the kid is naughty, it all the time sleepy, he was listless and irritable. Obviously, it’s time to talk about sleep disorders in children.
Sleep disturbance in children
Frequently waking baby clouded night terrors are often more compelling to panic parents than himself. You go look in the nursery: he sleeps or gets up, walks, muttering something inarticulate. “Get up, count, we expect great things!” But crumbs, as they say, raise raised, and forgot to Wake up. Moreover, in this state, he looks very scared, his heartbeat quickens, he’s sweaty, hot — there is the so-called “autonomic storm”. However, all your fears kid soon forgets — they remain only in the memories of parents. And all this, if your child does not injure himself during such night “travel”, doesn’t need specific correction. A lot of anxiety Continue reading
About it in polite society do not speak. Don’t tell over a Cup of coffee, the feeling – or rather, his absence – quickly trying to cover up a polite smile and hide away from prying eyes. «I do not love their parents” sounds like a confession in a terrible crime.
Why this is so
Once we first take offense to dad and mom. Someone brought up in Spartan conditions, someone took out a daily fatigue, someone suffered from neglect and constant employment of parents. Under-loved, unhappy children, who for years harbored resentment, and then just too tired to fight for parental attention, – this one category.
The other – those who had enough of the excessive care and love. Psychologists have many clients who happened to grow up with my mother and grandmother and from experience to experience unbearable heaviness of their love. They dream of escape from the family, but the sense of duty makes to stay. They are constantly taught how to live, what to think, whom to choose as friends. And, barely openevsys, these children run away – first in a student dormitory, then to another city… the country… on another planet. Call out only on holidays and life are already familiar with Continue reading