Today I want to think about the theme first, unrequited love. Namely, how can parents help a teen who doesn’t know how to survive first love?
First love happens at the age of 13-16 years. Time in the life of a teenager and already fragile. But if the love is unrequited or comes the moment of the breakup – a long and painful experiences can not be avoided.
This is the case when parents can either win the favor of their child, providing him with proper support, or to hurt him even more.
Most of the parents watching the experiences of his child, trying to help, but often this “help” only makes things worse. What seems so insignificant with all those years, at the age of 14 seems to be the biggest tragedy. It is important to remember this always.
How to survive your first love? A few tips to help parents:
1 . Let the child calm and understanding. He must feel that he is safe that houses his love and ready to listen. During this period, the child is extremely important a feeling of a reliable backup that can only be provided by parents.
2 . Avoid popular councils, and it is these Continue reading
I was standing near the escalator and suddenly noticed a young mother who tried to force her daughter to stand on a moving stage. The child, who looked about four years, lagged behind, clinging to the railing and cried: “no, No, mom, I’m scared!” The mother, whose hands were full of parcels, continued to pull the child “don’t be such a baby, and she said to her – I’m embarrassed for you. There is nothing terrible”.
At this point, tall silver-haired man, who was waiting to get on the escalator, leaned over to the little girl and said, “You know what it is? This is the ladder for young rabbits. At night when the store is closed, they jump on the stairs. It’s their favorite game. But during the day the rabbits are scared of people and hide, allowing boys and girls to go on their stairs for the night.” The girl looked at him. Then with a serious expression trustingly took his hand and together they went up the escalator.
“How wonderful”, I thought to myself. Must this man has children and grandchildren, since he knows so well to distract the child. But something about this situation forced me to return again and again to her. Everything was so cute and yet something was wrong.
I realized this later on tonight. The trouble was that although the girl and persuaded to climb the escalator, no one told her that it is normal Continue reading
What to do with a child’s greed? How do parents know when on the court, once again, the baby refused to share the machine, or scoop with a friend in the sandbox.
Always so obedient and docile boy, or affectionate girl, suddenly stomp your feet, hiding the machine, or a favorite doll behind his back and run away. The first reaction of the parents, in most cases, it’s a shame. Still, in their family is growing MEANIE! Mom asks, persuades, and often just power snatches kid a treasured toy, and gives the child who demanded her. Correctly enters the mother? Because the child in 2 -3 years always egomaniac, and talk about greed, as the trait in this age it is still very early. For the baby, in the first place – he himself, and all the other people, only an addition. A significant role in the prioritization of play and the parents. The child often is the center around which revolves the life of all other family members. And how can you demand from him willingly and unquestioningly to give his toy to another child?
In addition, at this age, children are very sensitive to parting with their belongings. Toy for baby, exactly the same thing for personal use, as for my mother, for example, lipstick or favorite sunglasses. You do not give your glasses a stranger, or even a familiar girl who will Continue reading