I was standing near the escalator and suddenly noticed a young mother who tried to force her daughter to stand on a moving stage. The child, who looked about four years, lagged behind, clinging to the railing and cried: “no, No, mom, I’m scared!” The mother, whose hands were full of parcels, continued to pull the child “don’t be such a baby, and she said to her – I’m embarrassed for you. There is nothing terrible”.
At this point, tall silver-haired man, who was waiting to get on the escalator, leaned over to the little girl and said, “You know what it is? This is the ladder for young rabbits. At night when the store is closed, they jump on the stairs. It’s their favorite game. But during the day the rabbits are scared of people and hide, allowing boys and girls to go on their stairs for the night.” The girl looked at him. Then with a serious expression trustingly took his hand and together they went up the escalator.
“How wonderful”, I thought to myself. Must this man has children and grandchildren, since he knows so well to distract the child. But something about this situation forced me to return again and again to her. Everything was so cute and yet something was wrong.
I realized this later on tonight. The trouble was that although the girl and persuaded to climb the escalator, no one told her that it is normal Continue reading
Too many people, sounds and stimuli. Everything is so unpredictable, and therefore dangerous. Go! To hide! Closed! To close, in order not to hear. Silent, so that you are left alone – alone with himself.
With a blank wall, erected by the child for self-defense, face perhaps all parents of children with autism. From whom he protected? How to set the communication through the wall?
The first thing that comes to mind, if we are talking about autism, is full of himself kid. What other States are characterized by autistic children and are they always the same?
First of all, like all children, kids with autism spectrum disorders differ from each other, have their own character, habits. Features of autistic symptoms is very individual.
The unifying feature of these children is the difficulty of social interaction, communication and stereotyped behavior. People with autism are difficult to understand other people. Because of this, communication with family members can be especially serious for them. While we intuitively understand how to communicate with each other, people with autism, this intuitive knowledge is missing.
Despite the obvious peculiarities in the behavior of outwardly autistic people look like ordinary children, and therefore, the surrounding people often perceive them as rude and spoiled, whereas it is fundamentally Continue reading
All parents raise their children to the best of my skill and understanding of life and rarely think about why, in certain situations, do so, and not otherwise. However, each mother in life there are moments when the beloved child behavior baffling.
In your mistakes you are not alone, all their parents occasionally do. But always better to learn from the mistakes of others, isn’t it?
A promise not to love
“If you’re not going like I want, I’ll never love you”
The opinion of parents: Why children are so often argue about any of our request? Maybe they’re doing us out of spite. How to be? To appeal to common sense? Yes, they just can’t hear what adults say to them. To threaten? These are no longer valid. “Mommy will no longer love you”. How often do many of us say this phrase!
^ Advice to parents: a Promise not to love your baby – one of the strongest tools of education. However, this threat is usually not carried out. But I feel fake. Once cheated, you can for a long time to lose the trust of the child – the child will perceive you as people lying.
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