The influence of parental attitudes on children’s personality development
Mental life is extremely difficult, because the mind is composed of two mutually determinant components: conscious and unconscious — conscious and subconscious.
In the sphere of the unconscious is important fixed relationship to ourselves, to others and to life in General. Define this set and psychological protection. Parents are especially important to understand the role in the emotional and personal development of the child playing parental attitudes.
Install arise on a daily basis. Some random, weak, other principled, consistent and strong, are formed from early childhood, and the earlier they learned, their effect is stronger. Once emerged, the installation does not disappear at a favorable moment of a child’s life affects his behavior and feelings. Weapon against negative attitudes is kontrastnosti, and constantly supported by the positive manifestations on the part of parents and others. For example, kontrastnosti “You can!” wins setting “Helpless, nothing you can’t do it!”, but only if the child will actually receive confirmation of their abilities in real-life activities (teaching, drawing, modeling, singing, Continue reading
Somehow in one of the shows on TV showed the nursing home. Many inhabitants of the house were brought here by their children and left in the care of the state. The headmistress says that gradually, the children rarely visit their parents. At first, the old people are outraged, offended, then accept, i.e., as expected, move on the scale of emotions to apathy and death. And interestingly, for 25 years, her work was never a time that someone said it I raised these children. No one has claimed responsibility!
The situation according to our observations, is very characteristic: every parent believes the duty of children to provide him with the attention, support and care in old age. But you ask those who think so, what they did in the process of bringing to this character trait is caring and consideration for others? Very simple truth is that will create is what you get. Why is it that people voluntarily take on this is not very easy to wear: it is well known that with the elderly harder than with a baby. Only Moody, irritable dad will not put in the corner, not forced to be obedient as a child.
So how justified such an expectation? Let’s try to understand who is who and what should. It is useful to look at the classic analogy: what comes first – the chicken Continue reading
Women can often hear the regret that today’s boys lack male parenting, and as a result lack of male parenting men do not manifest themselves in a masculine way. This is a huge however, only are we ready for such education, including whether women themselves to make difficult the norms of male parenting, education like men? The belief “Men don’t cry” is a required part of men’s education. I think this is a good believe that it should be applied with discernment and intelligence.
Itself to cry, do not be ashamed and not harmful. Good to cry from joy, to cry at the funeral, where appropriate and customary. But in other situations where children and women can cry, men do not. Men don’t cry, because for them it is usually pointless, and to be boys, we have a strong and reasonable people.
This is not all know, but for men crying is pointless. For women it’s different: if the woman mount, and she cried, she usually becomes easier, woman crying helps to cope with emotional pain. While the men have all wrong, their grief and their pain are not crying eases, no.
Women believe in it with difficulty, but it’s true – tears from men not easier. If a man against his tears, they Continue reading